My parents gave me two things: trust, and the freedom to use it. Every decision I made, they backed completely, and I spent years making sure I never gave them a reason to regret it.
But trust is not direction. When I had to pick a stream after Class 10, I did not choose the one I wanted. I chose the one that closed the fewest doors, because I did not know which door I would eventually need.
I found out much later that I was good at mathematics. Solving problems never tired me the way everything else did. By the time I was certain of it, my board exams were behind me, and when I looked up the country’s best institute for what I finally wanted to study, the application window had already closed.
I did not lose that seat on merit. I lost it on a date I did not know existed.
I have thought a great deal since about the distance between what a student is capable of and what that student is in a position to know in time. Ask a Class 10 student what they are good at. Then ask them what that could become, and by when they would have to act on it.
That distance is not made of careless people. Schools see these children every day. Teachers know who is quick with numbers and who comes alive in a language class. But that knowledge tends to stay where it forms, in a staff room, in a passing remark to a parent, and the decision arrives anyway, on a date nobody circled.
Ability is distributed far more evenly than information is.
Project Yaadhum is not starting with an answer to that. We are going school by school to understand how these decisions are actually being made today: what reaches a family, when it reaches them, and who is carrying it forward. Right now we are only listening.
I am often asked whether I would change any of it. I would not. That path is why I recognise this problem on sight, and why I will not leave it alone. I cannot go back for myself. I can make sure it reaches the student sitting where I sat.
Abisho George
Founding Member, Project Yaadhum · Mentors students through Naan Mudhalvan and the Ministry of Education’s Vidyanjali programme